My Husband’s Job Is Breaking Him🥲

Resign and get another job. There is no other way. This is way too toxic. This exhaustion and toxicity will spill everywhere. First resign then start looking if confident enough. Take a leap of faith.

Tbh your husband is working into a likely burnout

I would prefer you to help him with his problems, listen to his daily struggles and find solutions accordingly. Work with him to search a job, provide mental support, help him to create strong resume profile and guiding him switching to a better company with better opportunity and work life balance. Best way to heal with someone's pain is to work with medicine and counselling. Work together to get solution from this problem!

Sharing from experience, I work for a startup and the work pressure is sometimes unbearable but what motivates is my wife. She is also working (though little less pressure) but overall her day has more pressure than mine. Office work, kid, cooking, taking care of home and after all that still a smile on her face. And if I’m frustrated she listens to my problems, cribbing about work pressure and tries to motivate me to work and also to learn and look for other opportunities. We are married for 5years and in relationship for last 12 years. But I feel time is not the only factor, the willingness to support is the key.

Suggest to change our behavior with family because of before marriage everything good but after it is not tolerated . Otherwise change organization. [Family first)

I was in this same situation and I changed the company. Currently no stress, I'm happy and well paid. Always keep 6 months money reserve. If you already have it then don't think more and resign and look for other company.

He has to move out of that toxic environment. He shoulld avoid getting "married" to the job

Try changing the job ... peace is most important..if you have peace no matter how much money you earn you will always be happy..choose a company that has a good work environment then see the salary..and also you are a good partner..he is Lucky that he has you..☺️

Resign and get another job. and first check at least for a month the atmosphere.

Start building emergency fund equivalent to 6 months salary. This will give you confidence to survive even though there is no job on hand. Start looking for new job n check about the company culture before joining it. Resign once you build your emergency fund and confident about survival during no job period. Mental peace is of utmost importance n must be safeguarded at any cost. Give him emotional as well as financial support during transition phase. Once things get better you guys will emerge as more stronger as as a couple.

Can you let us know what is the organization name if not able to reveal atleast some hint? My suggestion is ask him to start preparing for interviews he will get familiar with concepts and etc then start looking for job change, sometimes if we complaint to hr we don't know how these managers will take sometimes people take it onto Ego and there are still chances that it might affect his rating and it will pressurise him more, Better thing would be to switch, or if he is tagged for a project for more than year or some time frame , few companies gives the option to switch project, if such option is there you can ask him to try.

Is it possible for you to tell the company name. It will be helpful for others to avoid if possible.

‘having a female boss is a true nightmare’ saying this with mine and others’ experience.

Managing work life balance is really getting difficult day by day . Responsibilities on young shoulders even make it more difficult to manage . The day you start realising that you are replaceable in office but not in home , you can change the course of your life

If it is a toxic work place we need a switch considering his experience skill set. If your financial situation is getting bad tell him to focus on debuts first. Try plan your financials well then skill up later switching job.

Ask him to resign and give all your salary to him, Lets support your husband !!

Ask you husband to have me in job on his behalf. I will pay him 50% . And you both enjoy vacation and quality time . When you start feeling vacation are over and enough quality time spent .He has to go out and you need quality air now then I will give his post back. I will go on my quality time then 😀.

If your husband is truly a valuable asset to the company, I'm confident he will manage the situation effectively. Ideally, the phone number used for office communication should be separate, allowing personal time to remain undisturbed. During leave periods, it is standard practice for another employee to temporarily handle the responsibilities to ensure smooth workflow. If the organization does not follow such professional practices, it may be worth considering opportunities with a company that better aligns with your expectations.

Resign to aap dene ke liye boldo, job to mil hi jayega, magar pehle us manager ko uski aukat bata denA...

This is terrible. I'm pretty sure your husband applied for leave and got approval. He can actually raise this to HR for the inconvenience, and then they will take strict actions against his manager.

You should try to explain him positively and not required to take the pressure. Also might be a switch to other company help him or other project in same company. Also what factors are making him stressful needs to be figured out. Besides also well balanced life is essential, mighe be some good financing can relieve more stress.

Really look at your finances together. His health comes first

Make ur home a work free zone and then start looking at other jobs quietly.

I think you should complaint against him and after that you record some calls when he threaten to him and tagged them in a mail but you also have to check your hubby s performance also he is doing well or not and highlight that manager in front of some management like vicepresident of that company and do this process

Please ask him to find another job or you will find it for him. I did it couple of times for my wife and myself. Whenever the stress level is more or it continues for more than 3-6 months, I start job hunting within company or outside.

Do not think twice. Just quit the job. Nothing is more important than mental health. Once the mental health is ruined then no "good company" or the so called "family in the company" or any amount of money can fix it. I am sort of in a similar situation but I do not give a f about them. My wife is also super supportive and that give me a relief. You can never fight or change these toxic people. You are a nice person, to think so much about him. Try convincing him step by step and assure him that you are always there to support if any problem comes in.

99% Delhi NCR jobs are such ...

Tell him to take stand and set boundaries especially when at home with family. Parallely ask him apply for new jobs and train to improve his expertise. Also keep him motivated.

There are lots of job tell him to start searching for new job

Tell him you care for him. And ask if he would like to take a break and look for other jobs. Because finding jobs while working 12-16 hrs a day is difficult. I did it because I had remote work but I know the pain. He is good at work, understands his responsibilities, so he will not sit idle. Allow him to take break, manage few months with less expenses and ask him to find another job. Ye toxic bosses, both male/female apne personal issues se escape ke liye job me aate hai and dinbhar usme hi rahna pasand karte hai. They don't do much work but spends more hours at office to escape from their partner or home...ya inke fokat ke love affairs ka gussa juniors pe nikalte hai. Ask him to try big product companies, because waha skilled logon ka hi hota hai and log kaam se kaam rakhte hai to itni panchayat nahi hoti.

Have some beer ... No fear... Boss is dear 1. Wrap your phone with silver foil .. it will make your phone not reachable. 2. Always keep a small knife in your key chain and boss should know this 3. Always give gifts to Boss's wife once in a quarter 4. Kcuf the boss

Ask him to quit