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Day to Day Office
1mo (edited)
My Husband’s Job Is Breaking Him🥲
I'm newly married, and after the wedding, I went on a vacation with my husband. He works at a very well-known company, as a specialist. Unfortunately, during most of our vacation, he was working on his laptop. I even overheard a conversation with his manager, who spoke to him very rudely even though he was on holiday leave. She expected him to work and her behavior was completely inappropriate.
Every time we go for a bike ride or spend time together, all he talks about is his toxic work culture, his boss, the constant workload, and how little he’s paid. By nature, he’s a soft-hearted, gentle guy, and I can clearly see that his manager is taking advantage of that.
He feels trapped in the job because he doesn’t think I’ll be able to support him financially on my own.
Please help me understand how to deal with this situation. I really want to help him.🙏
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gloriousmalpua
1mo
An Ops Executive
He’s lucky to have someone like you who notices and cares so deeply.
Have you considered couples counseling or therapy for him individually? It might help him process everything and gain strength.😊
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muskybluebird
1mo
works at
Resign and get another job. There is no other way. This is way too toxic. This exhaustion and toxicity will spill everywhere. First resign then start looking if confident enough. Take a leap of faith.
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a senior technical lead
3d
Sharing from experience, I work for a startup and the work pressure is sometimes unbearable but what motivates is my wife. She is also working (though little less pressure) but overall her day has more pressure than mine. Office work, kid, cooking, taking care of home and after all that still a smile on her face. And if I’m frustrated she listens to my problems, cribbing about work pressure and tries to motivate me to work and also to learn and look for other opportunities.
We are married for 5years and in relationship for last 12 years. But I feel time is not the only factor, the willingness to support is the key.
silientkingfisher
3w
works at
Resign and get another job. and first check at least for a month the atmosphere.
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shiva243
1d
works at
He has to move out of that toxic environment. He shoulld avoid getting "married" to the job
a senior data engineering analyst
2w
Can you let us know what is the organization name if not able to reveal atleast some hint?
My suggestion is ask him to start preparing for interviews he will get familiar with concepts and etc then start looking for job change, sometimes if we complaint to hr we don't know how these managers will take sometimes people take it onto Ego and there are still chances that it might affect his rating and it will pressurise him more,
Better thing would be to switch,
or
if he is tagged for a project for more than year or some time frame , few companies gives the option to switch project, if such option is there you can ask him to try.
piepie
3w
works at
‘having a female boss is a true nightmare’
saying this with mine and others’ experience.
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cminor
1mo
works at
Managing work life balance is really getting difficult day by day . Responsibilities on young shoulders even make it more difficult to manage . The day you start realising that you are replaceable in office but not in home , you can change the course of your life
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a deputy manager
3w
Ask him to resign and give all your salary to him, Lets support your husband !!
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insanewhale
5d
works at
Try changing the job ... peace is most important..if you have peace no matter how much money you earn you will always be happy..choose a company that has a good work environment then see the salary..and also you are a good partner..he is Lucky that he has you..☺️
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